(no hate replies please) i have a crush on my straight friend

[Blockzillahead]

im glad youre all with "go ahead and face your fears or desires" whatever but i dont think that would be a good idea. youre risking the chance of majorly creeping out the guy and making it awkward as hell for both of you. sorry op but he isnt going to be like "yeah i loved u 2 lets make out". you should flow with the wind... let it go. crushes come and go. its not worth the awkwardness and ruined friendship

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[ultimamax]

don't admit you like him. just make sure he knows you're gay. let him decide what to do next

[hodototman]

Is it bad I imagine OP bashing his friend upside the head with a bat, tying him to a chair, nailing the chair to a hardwood floor, and then going about raping and keeping him hostage until he's found a year afterwards ad he's documented by psychologists, only for him to break out and go about slaughtering hundreds of innocents with his bat and mutilating their corpses, before falling in love with more men and kidnapping them and imprisoning them as well before he eventually smuggles them all to Alcatraz where he lives out the rest of his days loving boypusillanimous individual.

Then again I'm a black canadian, so I guess my word doesn't mean much.

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[Swat 3]

OP, never tell him "dude i love you".

It is only 1) loving weird and 2) forcing it a bit.

he might chicken out if you go ahead with this approach. just tell him you're gay/ask him if he is gay.

[Frankie²]

OP, never tell him "dude i love you".

It is only 1) loving weird and 2) forcing it a bit.

he might chicken out if you go ahead with this approach. just tell him you're gay/ask him if he is gay.

noooo just say "im gay"
if the other guy is comfortable with coming out he will
never force anything pun intended

[childofdarkness016]

noooo just say "im gay"
if the other guy is comfortable with coming out he will
never force anything pun intended

idk i think it's better to ask indirectly, like asking what the deal was with the "i love you"s and ball-touching was.

but definitely come out, and don't talk about both things in the same conversation

i'm just saying this because i kind of did pressure my friend to come out and it was awkward at first, but it needed to happen. he was doubtful about his loveuality, but after having a several hour long conversation, he felt more comfortable about it. so, point is, he might be bi or something, but unsure. don't directly ask him since he's not even capable of answering, but definitely don't force him into a relationship.

[Bisjac]

it dosnt matter if his friend is straight or not. the fact that op cant tell him hes gay means they arent even friends.

[Frankie²]

it dosnt matter if his friend is straight or not. the fact that op cant tell him hes gay means they arent even friends.

well i guess cause i didnt tell a close friend of mine until this year (very recently actually) we arent friends....

[Bisjac]

well i guess cause i didnt tell a close friend of mine until this year (very recently actually) we arent friends....

well if you told him then you are.

but before you did you were just lieing to yourself that you 2 were friends.


its very simple. either you dont tell him a major thing like that and you arent the good friend, or you tell him and he dosnt accept you, and hes not a good friend.

a friend has to be told, otherwise your a piece of stuff.

[ultimamax]

it dosnt matter if his friend is straight or not. the fact that op cant tell him hes gay means they arent even friends.

well you can have close friends without them knowing your loveuality.

[Frankie²]

well if you told him then you are.

but before you did you were just lieing to yourself that you 2 were friends.

or just i wasnt ready??

[Destroyer]

You've mentioned saying this multiple times in this thread and I feel obligated to try and stop you from saying it.

Don't just randomly say "I love you!" That is just weird and it is going to creep him out. I'm straight, but if I was only dating a girl for a week and she immediately said she loved me, I'd probably run for the hills. Saying I love you and meaning it relationship wise very very early is a sign of obsession and most people don't want that starting any relationship.

[Bisjac]

or just i wasnt ready??

if you cant trust a person then how can you even call him a friend, and how could he call you a friend?
the detail of being gay isnt even the issue. its that you are hiding major stuff like that from people who are supossed to trust you.

[Frankie²]

if you cant trust a person then how can you even call him a friend, and how could he call you a friend?
the detail of being gay isnt even the issue. its that you are hiding major stuff like that from people who are supossed to trust you.

i trust them i just wasnt ready to tell them yet
what am i supposed to do? tell all my friends as soon as i figure it out? you're being unrealistic

[Bisjac]

if you are scared they will have an issue, then why are you even friends with them lol.

im straight. but if i were to ome out as gay to everyone right now. i know for a fact im going to have just as many friends and family tomorrow.

all then fake friends of yours arent real friends. you had a fear meaning you didnt trust them. either they are stuffty people you shouldnt be hanging with, or YOU are the bad friend,