romance in this game is so weird from a story standpoint
like, your spouse just died like a couple weeks ago in your perception and you're already on your way into the pants of someone like chill man go find your kid first or something lol
The story of Fallout 4 would have been more immersive if it were 100% linear.
However the fact that instead of looking for your son you can instead get drunk and have love all the time kind of makes the story seem like a joke. Bethesda needs to stop writing stories like this forcing you into something you don't want.
You can't feel an emotional connection with Shaun if you don't loving care.
At least with New Vegas you don't know your backstory because you were shot in the head. Also the main story isn't about looking for your family or whatever.
If you want revenge on benny, that's fine.
If you decide you chicken out on looking for Benny and instead you want to live a normal life, that's fine too.