because my name is stufflord its okay to do things that you wouldn't do to other users
like your justification for all of this is that my name is stufflord?
No, people see your behaviour as being more antagonistic and stuffty, because you named yourself stufflord. They see someone declaring themselves a stufflord, and expect them to be a stufflord.
If you were named "Mr. Brick" or something else neutral then maybe people wouldn't approach you with the same mindset.
Also, there's no way you choosing the persona "stufflord" doesn't impact the way you act on here at least a little bit.