idk if i can blame people for not understanding trans stuff in general because that's the status quo. unless you experience it yourself or you know someone who experiences it, i don't think it's very easy to actually get what it's like or why that's the way people are. it's hard for me to imagine, but clearly a lot of people have the traditional view of things so deeply ingrained that it's legitimately difficult to actually understand and i can get that. maybe some people call that common sense but it's not a completely irrational situation, it's just what they know. my only issue is when people try to assert themselves over others without trying to understand each other, and that's a general human problem that can apply to both sides