thoughts on polyamory

[hodot]

i was talking about a trans dude i had hung out with today.

hodot: we were texting and im like "hey wanna go to this concert wednesday that i'm going to with sophie"
hodot: sophie is another chick i flirt with
hodot: and he's like "yeah that sounds great!"
hodot: and i was like "and you're sure you're ok with me flirting with both of you? like that won't hurt any feelings?"
hodot: keep in mind he's known the way i am since we first met
hodot: at first he was like "yea its fine" and then as it went on he got less and less ok with it
hodot: and im like "i'm not gonna change or anything, you've known this since we met"
hodot: he's like "yeah i know :/"
hodot: last thing that was said from me was "i feel like you want to say something but you're afraid to say it" and he just goes "gotta go to bed, night"
hodot: nobody's in the wrong here, i think, and i've been in a similar position to him before

and then just polyamory in general

redacted: so highschool is kinda a practice field?
hodot: i dated somebody for 6 months freshman year. realized that isn't what i want
hodot: not so much a practice field as it is just try to make connections with as many different people as you can
hodot: i'm just trying to learn about life here man
hodot: i also dont think i am currently capable of actual romantic feelings
hodot: i'm also planning on going into psychology as a career path. it helps to know people and know how they function
redacted: i see
hodot: people are gonna get hurt
hodot: you can't avoid that
redacted: yeah
hodot: but i cant let it bring me down
hodot: this is my life, not theirs to control
hodot: hell, i'm gonna get hurt
hodot: im gonna go after somebody who is for monogamy and theyre gonna be like "dude i can't do that, it doesn't feel right with multiple people" and it
hodot: *i'll be barred off
hodot: ya feel
hodot: im just trying to get a slice from all walks of life

anybody else have differing/similar thoughts on highschool relationships and stuff? i'm pretty steadfast in my position on it, but i'll respect anything else

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[WaterOre]

Polyamory is all fun and games until a lover's feelings get hurt. It's important that you're open about this kind of stuff with your partners, and that they don't mind it.

[hodot]

Polyamory is all fun and games until a lover's feelings get hurt. It's important that you're open about this kind of stuff with your partners, and that they don't mind it.

yeah i definitely make a point to be upfront about it with whoever i'm flirting with. i never like to leave things ambiguous. it sucks when you like the person but they do mind it

[Rally]

So basically you're saying that you want an open relationship with someone?

[Daswiruch]

hodot: i also dont think i am currently capable of actual romantic feelings

considering that you're literally just 15 i'd say that this is true

[Clownfish]

I have attachment issues so I don't really have an opinion one way or the other
but as long as everybody involved is okay with it I don't see a reason to bash it

considering that you're literally just 15 i'd say that this is true

also this

[hodot]

So basically you're saying that you want an open relationship with someone?

i don't really feel romantic attraction to anybody rn, and i'm alright with that. i want to have good friends who i can also kiss/get more physical with if the opportunity presents itself, without getting into anything exclusive. i will know when the time is right to be exclusive with someone.

[Clownfish]

so while im here what point do people actually know how romantic feelings work and what is the difference between a romantic attraction and just lust

[Red Spy]

Is this gonna turn into a cuck-like situation

[Daswiruch]

so while im here what point do people actually know how romantic feelings work and what is the difference between a romantic attraction and just lust

despite my short time in the relationship game i can actually tell when my feelings are actual romantic attraction or lust
for me romantic attraction kind of feels like when i just wanna be near that person and i get this lightheadedness along with chest tightness and some other physical feeling that i can't describe
lust is when i just can't get loving off of my mind when i'm with that person and all they are to me at that time is pretty much a piece of meat
i'm pretty sure it's different from person to person or not what do i know

[hodot]

so while im here what point do people actually know how romantic feelings work and what is the difference between a romantic attraction and just lust

well for me, romantic attraction is if i really thought about a person and i said "there is no one else that I trust more and want to invest my time in than this person, and given the opportunity to be with anyone else, no matter who it is, i would turn it down."

[hodot]

Is this gonna turn into a cuck-like situation

you mean what I'm doing to the person i hung out with today? only if they let that happen, if they cut things off with me i'm not going to try and object. i will be sad but depending on their priorities it'd probably be the best for them.

despite my short time in the relationship game i can actually tell when my feelings are actual romantic attraction or lust

yeah, you think that. it's more complicated than that. sorry for double post

[Clownfish]

ok ty for the responses

[Daswiruch]

yeah, you think that. it's more complicated than that.

1. you're younger than me lol
2. why are you telling me what i know

[hodot]

1. you're younger than me lol
2. why are you telling me what i know

i know i'm younger than you. i haven't figured that stuff out yet, adults haven't figured that stuff out yet.

we're both young. that wasn't an attack on you by any means, i guess what i meant to say is be careful because everything could change at once