o forget
turned out i was on like master difficulty and i was new to elder scrolls completely.
By the way, you may want to consider planning how you level up.
It's possible to spend a long time training your non-combat skills (speech, alchemy, smithing, etc..) which will jump your character level up.
However the enemies you encounter (particularly draugr, dragons and vampires) will start to match your new level and have combat skills for that level.
Meanwhile you might have 0-10 armour/1-handed/destruction skill and be useless in a fight and your 40-50 pickpocket skill won't help you out much.
So just be mindful to level up your combat skills too. OR you can focus on combat avoidance (Sneak for sneaking, or Illusion for pacifying/fearing/frenzying enemies).
If you hadn't said your difficulty was too high then this is what I would have assumed was your problem. It's a really easy trap to fall into, and it can make your early/mid-game really tricky, even on low difficulty.