This thread is quite interesting, I feel helpful just posting here. 

But I can host a server. Maybe I can see what he is doing wrong. Most of the time my server has a lot of people., But I haven't been able to host often 'cause my computers were getting switched.
But wait do you watch him play, if you do you should try to tell him what to do and not do.
It worked with my brothers. Who don't know crap about BL :3