Author Topic: Child Punishment and your views on it.  (Read 8536 times)


Many people make thing "Hur dur abusive" But how else are you going to teach them how to act.


IMO, if physical punishment is the absolute only thing that will work o a child, then that child is either severely lacking in intelligence or morals.
or the parents are incompetent

which seems to be the case most of the time

steal = whip
do something incorrectly = take away something
lying = whip and take away something
do something incorrectly = what the forget does this even mean?
lying = lying generally isn't that bad, I wouldn't spend too much time with this, seeing how lying is just a part of society
steal = probably a generic take away something or whatever else I think of

My momma hit me with a belt all my life, look at me now!  :cookieMonster:
Now my sister is a little brat that demands everything now or shell cry about it?
Does my mom do anything about it? Yeah she responds to her needs immediatly to shut her ass up

my mom does the same for my sister :x

my mom does the same for my sister :x
Same here. My mom makes so many promises to my sister and doesn't break them. For me, she never made me any promises.

People who are spanked get angry at their parents and bottle up said anger, in risk of being beat again.
If you hit your child, you are only ruling them in fear, not respect.

do something incorrectly = what the forget does this even mean?
lying = lying generally isn't that bad, I wouldn't spend too much time with this, seeing how lying is just a part of society
steal = probably a generic take away something or whatever else I think of
1. i tell him to clean his/her room, he does it halfway and lies about it doing it completely.
2. he/she should know not to lie to his/her parents
3. if he/she KNOWS he/she stole, then he gets whipped. if he is like 5 and didnt see a price-tag, then i just lol and tell him/her not to do it again.

The only time I ever stole something was a stick of gum when I was about six.

Well when you suffer pain for doing something, it becomes instinct that it's something you shouldn't do. When you're told you're doing something you shouldn't be, well most kids don't give a damn or it goes into memory. Memories are often forgot.

I shall say I've experienced being beaten with a metal coat hanger. Which is certainly going too far. I now lack any social skills whatsoever (I'm serious on that note, when I'm on the phone to my aunt or something I don't know how to start a conversation). There's also my cousin who gets beaten with a wooden stick.

I'd say that to some extent physical punishment is acceptable. Like a smack in the face or something. Not beating children with solid objects. I mean people these days (I don't know if this is the case for everyone) are lacking discipline. Chatter in class, chewing gum under tables, refusing to clean your room, underage smoking...

I never chat in class or talk back to the teacher because I distinctly remember when I was sitting in my mum's lap crying about something and my dad was lecturing my brothers I interrupted him about something and then a lot of pain then my mother holding me. I shall never interrupt someone again.

Of course they think I'm mature enough to actually understand their lectures now and don't beat me anymore.

Conclusion
Until the child is mature enough to understand why the parent is lecturing them, I find that physical punishment to some extent is acceptable.

All discipline and therefore punishment should be done out of love for the child.
That's what makes the difference between child abuse and punishment.

Pengie, it's never been questioned that inflicting pain unto someone is going to stop a behavior. The question is: what are the side-effects of beating a child to prove a point?

Again, I will apply myself to this situation. The first time I was beat (that I can recall) was in the 2nd grade. The very first time it happened the teacher walked me back into class and I was obviously shaken. I was trembling and my eyes were all puffy red, my clothes had tears on them. A girl walked up to me and in the sweetest of ways asked if I was alright. I told her "if you ever talk to me again I will pull your eyes out." Needless to say we never spoke again.

I'm not exactly a level playing field, I'm not a reliable control in a social experiment, but I can definitely tell you that the first time I ever threatened another student was directly after being spanked for the first time.

I would smack my kid but Id never like, throw them against a wall or go hulk on them

I don't believe you should ever hit a child. And I also don't believe you should lecture them over everything they do. One should exemplify the traits you hope for them to reflect, and raise them accordingly. Teach them from the start what you hope for them to know. Certainly sometimes punishment must be placed, but the ultimate goal is to help a child to reach a point where they don't need punishment for the greater things because they understand that they shouldn't do it. Not because they remember pain or torment or being grounded or having their xbox taken away, but because they have values which tell them that it (Whether it be stealing, killing, eating the dead, raw carcuss of another being, etc.) isn't a good choice. i.e. Help them grow to be a good person.

But that's just my two and a half cents. :o

But that's just my two and a half cents. :o
Mage is so awesomely wise he gets an extra half?

The most important thing to do when raising a kid is to be a role model.

If you tell them not to lie while you lie, they will lie back.
If you tell them not to smoke while smoking, they will have an increased risk of being a smoker.
If you tell your kids to eat right and exercise while scarfing down a box of twinkies every night, they will give your advice no credibility.