Whats your jet loadout? Right now I use air radar, rocket pods and extinguisher.
I have 2 primary ones.
For Conquest: ECM, Heat-Seekers, and (I forgot the name of it but it makes lock on much quicker) Laser-lock-faster-thingy. This is a great combo for when there are multiple jets in the air at once and you need to take one out before you get into a dogfight with them both. 80% of the time, people try to use Heat-seekers on conquest because they are to lazy to switch to the primary so as soon as you hear the lock on just pop ECM while taking out the first victim. Then just go for the other.
For Rush: This is where the fun begins.
I put Extinguisher, Rocket pods, and air radar. TBH Air raider is never really needed unless you really don't feel like paying attention(like myself). Tanks can be killed easily within 1 run. First you just shoot your rockets and spam the gatling gun and it's dead. I've gotten used to the gatling gun so taking out multiple infantry on 1 run is casual for me but I'm sure it's not difficult if you've never tried it. anyways, the air radar will let you know when you have the other enemy jet on your tail while you were busy firing at lil ants on the ground.
Also just a few tips for people that don't know these yet, I thought I would be a little helpful since I can't play BF3 for a while but would like to encourage people to fly moar jetz.
Killing Helicopters with ease: Everyone knows how annoying they can be when you are trying to target another jet. In an Air cobat situation, The Helicopters are always the first things you should take out (if it's targeting you) before taking out the other 2 jets and/or transport heli. Don't try and swerve around it because it won't work. As soon as you are getting locked on (and you know that it is in fact a helicopter), You turn around and head right for that starfish. IF you know how to do it right, the missles can be dodged by going towards them at an angle and thereby making it just enough so that it exceeds the missles turn radius making it jsut blow up and not come back and hit you. After that, just swoop under the helicopter and go straight up using Afterburners. He cannot target you above him so at this point the pilot will do 1 of 2 things: become a complete handicap and turn the helicopter and a 90 degree angle trying to target you thus crashing and burning OR ignore you since he lost you. Just before you start to drop too much speed go straight down towards him and give him all you got. If you have heat seaks use those then fire your gatling gun in bursts. Bursts hit much more and they wont build up heat so you have constant damage done to the helicopter. by the time you reach him he will be disabled and/or dead.
[EDIT] P.S. I feel like I have said too much for a game over a year old now but I hope it helps those who need it!