I find it easier in some situations to just think of division as multiplication for the reciprocal, and subtraction as addition of negative numbers. Not necessarily completely relevant to this problem, but it can help when confused about the OoO.
So I get the whole ambiguity thing, but I was always taught that when you have something like 2(9+3), you either distribute first or treat it as a single term. However, this obviously produces issues in some cases. So the real issue is not that anyone here is "doing it incorrectly" but rather that PEMDAS needs to be ammended.