Remember that chick I met a couple months ago? Meet The Parents Edition!

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Hay hottie wana meet @ my place after paintballin and chill~~~~

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[Col. Derontchi]

Hay hottie wana meet @ my place after paintballin and chill~~~~

Are you suggesting this or are you trying to make a point or...?

[XR-7]

Are you suggesting this or are you trying to make a point or...?

Uh





I was kidding....

But now it's ruined so I'll just stop.

[Foxscotch]

Because inbetween conversations, you run the risk of becoming too much of a friend to be dateable.

no you don't. that doesn't even make sense. it's one thing to be weirded out by the idea of dating someone you've been friends with since you were little kids, but it isn't going to hurt your chances to become her friend. if you did that, and she wasn't interested in you when you eventually asked her out, it has nothing to do with being friends

[Col. Derontchi]

no you don't. that doesn't even make sense. it's one thing to be weirded out by the idea of dating someone you've been friends with since you were little kids, but it isn't going to hurt your chances to become her friend. if you did that, and she wasn't interested in you when you eventually asked her out, it has nothing to do with being friends

So, if you talked to her normally, which you should, but NEVER did anything flirtatious, how would she know that you're not looking to be just friends? I'm not saying don't talk to her, I'm just saying throwing in the occasional flirty comment is good to ensure that both she and yourself are reminded that you're looking for something more than being friends. If I'm wrong, will you please provide a counterexample?

[Foxscotch]

So, if you talked to her normally, which you should, but NEVER did anything flirtatious, how would she know that you're not looking to be just friends? I'm not saying don't talk to her, I'm just saying throwing in the occasional flirty comment is good to ensure that both she and yourself are reminded that you're looking for something more than being friends. If I'm wrong, will you please provide a counterexample?

"just friends" is only a thing if there's no interest in the first place. flirting doesn't even mean anything. people flirt all the time, with no interest in dating. and on that note, not flirting doesn't mean there will never be an interest in dating

[Col. Derontchi]

"just friends" is only a thing if there's no interest in the first place. flirting doesn't even mean anything. people flirt all the time, with no interest in dating. and on that note, not flirting doesn't mean there will never be an interest in dating

Flirting is ESSENTIAL to a dating relationship. Yeah, people flirt randomly, but usually not without reason.

[Foxscotch]

Flirting is ESSENTIAL to a dating relationship.

that's an incredibly absurd and presumptuous statement, and I seriously doubt you have anything to back it up

[Mikoyan]

OP

[Lego lad]

"hey nice jugs baby"

do this

[Col. Derontchi]

that's an incredibly absurd and presumptuous statement, and I seriously doubt you have anything to back it up

flirting is loveual in some way or another. Whether it's obvious, or extremely subtle, it's there. Flirting makes the difference between just friends, and then friends. Unless you think the two relationship types are the same. I don't really know how to "back it up". It's all personal experience, for the most part.

[Foxscotch]

flirting is loveual in some way or another. Whether it's obvious, or extremely subtle, it's there. Flirting makes the difference between just friends, and then friends. Unless you think the two relationship types are the same. I don't really know how to "back it up". It's all personal experience, for the most part.

you can not prove, from personal experience, that something is ALWAYS one way (unless you are everyone in the world, simultaneously)
I know, from personal experience, that flirting is not essential to dating. neither does it make the difference between being friends and being in a romantic relationship
you're also assuming that all romantic relationships are loveual, which is again, incredibly untrue

[Col. Derontchi]

you can not prove, from personal experience, that something is ALWAYS one way (unless you are everyone in the world, simultaneously)
I know, from personal experience, that flirting is not essential to dating. neither does it make the difference between being friends and being in a romantic relationship
you're also assuming that all romantic relationships are loveual, which is again, incredibly untrue

Then let me ask you. What is the point of flirting? Attraction IS loveuality. It is the BASIS of loveuality. How can you tell me that you can be attracted to someone and not have anything to do with loveuality? Sure, there are relationships without love, but it's, by definition, impossible to be unloveually attracted to someone. Using the traditional definition of attraction, of course.

Now, I'm not saying that flirting automatically makes you romantic partners, but it's damn near impossible to not flirt and become romantic partners. Real ones, anyway.



But is it awkward to like her IG posts right now

[Clone v.117]

Flirting is fun, and that's what your main focus should be Col, have fun.
Girls (especially pretty ones) get complimented/commented on/hit on by guys regularly, they can be desensitized to accepting any typical approach. If you want to get in you have to be different, don't force the relationship or come on too strong, just have a good time with her and focus on how happy it makes you and tell her that.
If you go in with a clear intent that you want to get with her -which can be okay- you will automatically be grouped together with all the other guys that are blatantly trying (and failing) to get with her, just hanging around as a happy friend will get you closer and also keep you out of that category of strongarm hookups.
A little flirting along the way helps, just don't push it too far or focus your comments on her appearance, she's probably heard it enough already from every other guy.

[Foxscotch]

Real ones, anyway.

thanks for clearing that up. now I know that whatever I say to you won't matter because you can just say it's not applicable to "real" relationships