Funny how it's the stuffty minority that whines the loudest when they can't act like horrible people without repercussions.
Matthew and the likes will try their damnedest to justify and explain to make it look better because they have a stake in this sort of behavior. I can guarantee you that if people like OP felt comfortable enough and felt they could get away with it, they'd be slinging out tribal diatribes like Roseanne left and right.