What are your thoughts on marriage?

[Makingblah]

I never want to get married. Recently the idea of women has just been like ugh. I'm finding men attractive (I always have), but not in the same way I'd find women attractive. I'd never in my darkest dreams want to have love with another man. It's just a no no for me. But I still want kids- to be a single father would have me extremely happy, or to find a woman who would bear my children that would also like nothing to do with me romantically. Then to find a man to call my best friend, who would live with me but again, not want any romantic involvement. Marriage cannot do this for me, so I'm never going to get married.

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[GhostStar]

oh my god I love that movie

[Planr]

In Biblical times, one man and one woman would get married when they became adults in God's eyes, around the ages of 13-15.
Nowadays, we've seen a total breakdown of both the family unit and kin relationships, and it's because people are perverting God's intended function for Marriage and family, and adding new "age groups" such as "teenagers", "young adults", "senior citizens" and whatnot. You are really either an adult, or an adolescent.
No doubt many here will say that marriage has to "adapt to society" and therefore be "put off for later in favor of getting a job and education first".
But the statement that you have to get a good job first and go to college and get a house before you get married is all a blatant lie.
Is it a good idea to wait, given all possible circumstances and difficulties? Perhaps.
Is it sin if you wait? No, thankfully not.
Does waiting give you time to think over the choices and grow in maturity on the matter of marriage? Yes and no.
OP, I think it would help you be less biased if you'd add a "13-17" option in the poll.

[Headcrab Zombie]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce_in_the_United_States#Rates_of_divorce
There it basically says that a 50-50 chance is the accepted statistic

It says it's "commonly claimed"
Then check the citation for that, it calls it fiction

EDIT: There are other statements giving similar numbers, so nevermind I guess




As far as OP questions.

1. Not really sure. Probably at least a few years.
2. I'd say early-mid twenties minimum.
3. Either partner can propose
4. No

[D3ATH LORD]

depends.
depends.
depends.
depends.

This. The questions in the poll are stupid.

[Qwepir]

In Biblical times, one man and one woman would get married when they became adults in God's eyes, around the ages of 13-15.
Nowadays, we've seen a total breakdown of both the family unit and kin relationships, and it's because people are perverting God's intended function for Marriage and family, and adding new "age groups" such as "teenagers", "young adults", "senior citizens" and whatnot. You are really either an adult, or an adolescent.
OP, I think it would help you be less biased if you'd add a "13-17" option in the poll.

Are you aware of how stupid you make yourself and your religion sound whenever you post anything at all?
Form your own loving opinions you mindless godzombie.

[GhostStar]

I personally dont want to get married.  I dont want to have children and although I am I tiny bit lonely I dont want a wife. I just like being by myself more than being around others.

[Planr]

Are you aware of how stupid you make yourself and your religion sound whenever you post anything at all?
Form your own loving opinions you mindless godzombie.

The ends justify the means, Qwepir. If by "forming my own opinions" you mean coming up with my own personal definition of marriage and deciding things the way I want them -in essence, "playing god" and deciding what I think is right and wrong-, then that path leads only to death, and I do not wish to follow such a path.

[PredatorOoze]

Well I couldn't get married to a guy in my state (TX), that already makes me just want to throw the whole concept out the window. And stuff, even if I could I still probably wouldn't do it. I mean I love richard, but I love new richard even more.

[Nitro_Weavile]

Well, the Bible shows, through Adam and Eve, that when a man doesn't rely on God for decisions, there is death.

[GhostStar]

Well I couldn't get married to a guy in my state (TX), that already makes me just want to throw the whole concept out the window. And stuff, even if I could I still probably wouldn't do it. I mean I love richard, but I love new richard even more.

did you just hint that you are a child enthusiast?

[Nobot]

I think you should get married if you trust the person completely.
You have to trust them a lot, especially financially.

I don't think people should marry just because they love them.
A lot of celebrities and rich people make that mistake.
Then they get a divorce and lose a lot sometimes.

Age-wise, dunno.
I think the person should have financial experience and I don't think you necessarily get to that point until you have a house or bills to pay. Which could be around 21 years old.

All other questions pretty much depend on the couple and how they feel.
Especially the ring question lol.

[sir dooble]

How long should they be dating for?

This depends on the individuals entirely, but in my opinion a sensible length of time would be at least 1-2 years. That really lets you know the person you're wanting to marry, particularly if you live with them.

To me, anything shorter than that is normally quite rash, unless you both really know each other, such as lifelong friends.

How old should they be when they marry?

Well, at least the legal age of consent in their country for starters.

Marrying young isn't necessarily a bad thing, but it can be difficult and rash.
My parents married young with my Dad only being 25, but having had a child at age 19 with my Mum. They've never had a falling out and have been happily married for nearly 17 years. It can work if you put enough effort into it and you love eachother.

Still being a teenager is almost definitely a sign that it's too young. You've not experienced life enough to really decide whether or not you have found someone you can commit to.
And marriage is a big commitment. Not just in choosing to not sleep with other people, but in other ways too. It often means you're putting your partner's interests on par or in front of yours, or you're commited to a family instead of your aspirations and future.
It's not so easy to carry on into education and then higher-end employment if you're married before you start. And that's something most people should aim for.

Should the man propose to the woman?

If the man wishes to.
A woman can propose too. It depends on who is ready to jump a little bit ahead and put forth the idea.

And if both are already aware they want to marry and choose a proposal as a symbolic thing in front of people then it doesn't matter who they choose to do the proposal.

Should the man blow his life savings on a ring?

Most definitely not. For Engagement or Wedding ring.

That's a terrible way to start a marriage, by spending all your financial security on something material which can be lost or stolen.

Sure, spend some money on it. A month or two's wage perhaps, but don't blow all your money on it.
Having a family is expensive, even if just husband and wife. You don't want to have nothing when you start.

[Yosher]

How long should they be dating for?
long enough to have a lot of trust in eachother
How old should they be when they marry?
doesn't really matter to me
Should the man propose to the woman?
doesn't matter to me either
Should the man blow his life savings on a ring?
no. just because they want their fingers to look pretty doesn't mean they should buy a 10k dollar ring with diamonds and stuff on it. if you're going to blow your money, blow it on something better than the ring. blow it on the wedding or something, at least you're going to enjoy that (hopefully)

[XR-7]

I personally don't think that anyone should marry under 18. Almost every legal loophole anywhere requires you to be 18 (signing papers, joining certain groups, etc). It'd be too hard if not impossible to run a family in today's society at such a young age.

I also think that divorce rates are massively lower for religious groups than the non-religious groups.  The majority (not all) will usually end up waiting longer before making big decisions. They also follow restrictions and morals while many atheistical groups could care less so long as its legal.