It's deceptive because maybe you really don't like being with a trans person for whatever personal reason.
literally the only reason for that would be because you're a bigot
there's not even an excuse. god knows what you'll come up with to justify it, but i guarantee you it will be ridiculous
But when it comes to romantic partners, friendships and employers, I find it reasonable to expect a standard of open honesty?
neither friends nor your employers have any need to know what you have in your pants
romantic partners, or even just loveual partners, sure, they should know. but I've never actually heard of a real life case of that happening
If 'something you're ashamed of' has an effect on my direct ability to interact with you
it does not