Remember that chick I met a couple months ago? Meet The Parents Edition!

[Col. Derontchi]

I'm not sure she is into. Most people tend to flirt back when someone flirts with them rather than just say 'smooth' back at them.
And it sounds like she is putting obstacles in the way.

Next time ask her if she'd like to meet up and for her to tell you when she is free. Then the ball is in her court, and if she never gets back to you about it then you know how she feels.

Also, stop flirting and instead just chat to her like a friend and get to know each other.

If she wasn't at least curious, she wouldn't have tracked me down. I jumped the gun a little bit asking her so soon, but I've still got it going. She seemed interested when I told her that we could start a little bit smaller than paintball and chill.

Like I said, I'm gonna back off at least for the rest of today, maybe tomorrow, and then start another conversation. Point is, this all started less than 24 hours ago, so I think I just jumped the gun a little bit. She doesn't seem completely uninterested though.

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[Lord Tony®]

If she wasn't at least curious, she wouldn't have tracked me down. I jumped the gun a little bit asking her so soon, but I've still got it going. She seemed interested when I told her that we could start a little bit smaller than paintball and chill.

Like I said, I'm gonna back off at least for the rest of today, maybe tomorrow, and then start another conversation. Point is, this all started less than 24 hours ago, so I think I just jumped the gun a little bit. She doesn't seem completely uninterested though.

She's the one that tracked you down if anything you should keep going.

[Darryl McKoy]

I'm not going to censor my jokes or myself to her so I come off as someone I am not.

No by all means don't. If you really are an starfish like you've said, you deserve someone with self esteem issues

[Camel]

No by all means don't. If you really are an starfish like you've said, you deserve someone with self esteem issues

aight let's reel it back a bit, i doubt he really meant he "treates his girlfriend like stuff". don't need to put words in his mouth

[Darryl McKoy]

aight let's reel it back a bit, i doubt he really meant he "treates his girlfriend like stuff". don't need to put words in his mouth

He said he was an starfish to her though, I didn't put any words in his mouth.

[Col. Derontchi]

She's the one that tracked you down if anything you should keep going.

Keep going as in...?

[Otis Da HousKat]

Keep going as in...?

Keep going until you hit her cervix.

[Camel]

He said he was an starfish to her though, I didn't put any words in his mouth.

yeah but he never said she had self esteem issues, that's quite a leap in reasoning.

[Col. Derontchi]

I'll quit using this thread eventually, I'm just getting off the ground.

The main thing now is how to start conversation without being desparate. How to make it relevant. I know from last time that we at least have a couple things in common, but one of those is paintball and IDK how she feels talking about work or anything like that.

[Darryl McKoy]

yeah but he never said she had self esteem issues, that's quite a leap in reasoning.

Nor would he say it if she did lol. That's my own conclusion based on him saying she likes him being an starfish to her.

I'll quit using this thread eventually, I'm just getting off the ground.

The main thing now is how to start conversation without being desparate. How to make it relevant. I know from last time that we at least have a couple things in common, but one of those is paintball and IDK how she feels talking about work or anything like that.

Just be confident and don't second guess yourself. The difference between desperation and persistence is that desperate people lack the confidence behind their intent.

[The Resonte!]

Keep going until you hit her cervix.

hah

[e-maxx]

Keep going until you hit her cervix.

ow

[sir dooble]

The main thing now is how to start conversation without being desparate. How to make it relevant. I know from last time that we at least have a couple things in common, but one of those is paintball and IDK how she feels talking about work or anything like that.

You won't know unless you ask.
Ask her how she got to working at the paintball place.
And if she plays much.

If she's not interested in paintball, or doesn't care to discuss work, then that's not an issue. You've not failed because you brought up something she doesn't care about. That's exactly how you learn someones likes/dislikes.
You can't be expected to know all the right things to talk about right away.


Also, are you chatting to her via Text, or Facebook, or something similar?
If so, just send her the message "How long have you worked at [paintball place]?".
You don't need to segue it into a conversation. Chatting by text can be much more direct at times.

[Col. Derontchi]

You won't know unless you ask.
Ask her how she got to working at the paintball place.
And if she plays much.

If she's not interested in paintball, or doesn't care to discuss work, then that's not an issue. You've not failed because you brought up something she doesn't care about. That's exactly how you learn someones likes/dislikes.
You can't be expected to know all the right things to talk about right away.


Also, are you chatting to her via Text, or Facebook, or something similar?
If so, just send her the message "How long have you worked at [paintball place]?".
You don't need to segue it into a conversation. Chatting by text can be much more direct at times.

Just be confident and don't second guess yourself. The difference between desperation and persistence is that desperate people lack the confidence behind their intent.

Yeah, my confidence is kind of in a lull because I went in too soon.

Do I wait for her to text me? I think I already came off maybe just a tad desparate, and even though I was the one to end the conversation, I don't want to give off that impression. So, should I wait for her to text?

Oh yeah, and this is over private messaging on Instagram.

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