So my girlfriend broke up with me, Adult Swim has spoken.

[Lord Tony®]

What's worse is that she wants to have love with a girl or guy for like a threesome or whatever (while we were together) but I'm not allowed to have love with a girl.

So she's like constantly thinking I'm cheating on her while she's having fantasies about getting gang banged or whatever. It's loving unrealistic.

I'm not no loving cuck.

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[Path]

What I'm trying to say is that insecurity in a relationship is normal, but excessive insecurity is a very bad sign. The insecurity that is presented by the partner is a mirror of how they see the relationship, so if they have trust issues with you it is because they feel that you don't trust them back. It's a sign that the 'mutual love' is fading and some sort of counseling is a great idea.

I don't strongly feel that you should just dump a girl as soon as you notice she doesn't trust you, but it's better than trying to save a potentially doomed relationship. Like, if you already know that things aren't working out between you two why would you want to continue?

So she's like constantly thinking I'm cheating on her while she's having fantasies about getting gang banged or whatever. It's loving unrealistic.

Thats very suspect

[Lord Tony®]

I trust her more than any other girl I've dated and I suggested she should see counseling and she loving screams at me and said it doesn't help.

She doesn't loving trust me because she tells me almost all her ex boyfriends have cheated on her. I don't have time to deal with this stuff.

[Biostorm]

What's worse is that she wants to have love with a girl or guy for like a threesome or whatever (while we were together) but I'm not allowed to have love with a girl.

So she's like constantly thinking I'm cheating on her while she's having fantasies about getting gang banged or whatever. It's loving unrealistic.

I'm not no loving cuck.

She doesn't loving trust me because she tells me almost all her ex boyfriends have cheated on her. I don't have time to deal with this stuff.

Being in a threesome together =/= having love with a girl while she's not around

From the sound of it the relationship wasn't going to work out anyway so why argue about it

[IkeTheGeneric]

At the same time, you shouldn't fault somebody for not 'getting out' of the relationship before it went sour.

also it's kind of scummy to automatically assume he's never been in a relationship because obviously you've been in a relationship and that's how ALL relationships must go

I'm basing my assumptions off of his unrealistic and inane relationship advice. He's the dude barging into the thread with criticism and advice. If he doesn't know what he's talking about then he's sort of an starfish for pushing it on other people like it's the truth.

Of course I'm wasting my time, you're going to be a contrarian because memes

[Path]

At the same time, you shouldn't fault somebody for not 'getting out' of the relationship before it went sour.

I wasn't faulting anyone I was just advising that you shouldn't let a sour relationship continue, especially when you and the partner already know it's going sour.

And I'm not trying to shove my 'stuffty advice' down anyone's throat, I'm just throwing in two cents on the matter. Maybe I've had less relationship experience than you, maybe not. Either way I just want to share what I think about it.

[Lord Tony®]

Being in a threesome together =/= having love with a girl while she's not around

From the sound of it the relationship wasn't going to work out anyway so why argue about it

She doesn't want me to have love with the girl even during a potential threesome.

[The Resonte!]

what the hell 9 pages that was fast

[Biostorm]

She doesn't want me to have love with the girl even during a potential threesome.

Ok that is kind of messed up

[Dannu]

Within a year she's crying because she wants to know if we have a future together. She's like "I want to know if you want to get married and have kids"

I told her I can't see in the loving future, stop talking to me about it.



I don't believe in marriage anyways. It's the exact same stuff as dating but with extra steps and harder to get out of it.

So.. you lied to her? She sees the relationship going a certain direction and you said that you didn't have a dead-set opinion on the matter even though you are most certainly against it. That's essentially toying her around. And added to that, this shows that you clearly are not interested in working on the relationship and don't care about what she has to say or what she thinks. richard.

[Lord Tony®]

So.. you lied to her? She sees the relationship going a certain direction and you said that you didn't have a dead-set opinion on the matter even though you are most certainly against it. That's essentially toying her around. And added to that, this shows that you clearly are not interested in working on the relationship and don't care about what she has to say or what she thinks. richard.

Lied about what?


I've only dated her for about a year and she's already talking about kids and marriage. I told her I don't loving see doing any of that right now.

Just because I don't believe in marriage doesn't mean we can't have some stupid fake ceremony about it which I would be fine with.

[Lord Tony®]

That was an incredibly white knight thing to say.

[Lord Tony®]

She said she sees herself getting married  and having kids before the age of 25. She is 22.

It doesn't loving matter with who.

She could meet some guy at the age of loving 24 for all I know and then just pick that guy to have a kid with. This is one hell of a red flag with her mentality.

Her chemical reactions and instinct just make her believe she wants a child. I doubt it would matter if it was with me or some loving hobo down the street.

[Path]

So why didn't you say something along the lines of "I don't feel ready for marriage yet, I've only known you for less than two years." Rather than, like, "I don't believe in marriage because it's stupid"

You're essentially saying "I don't want to commit to anything at all" and that means you didn't treat your relationship seriously

Her chemical reactions and instinct just make her believe she wants a child. I doubt it would matter if it was with me or some loving hobo down the street.

There's more to a relationship than loving chemicals and hormones, Tony. If you don't love her as a person and aren't attracted to her romantically, why are you even in a relationship?

[Lord Tony®]

And then she wants to go to Thailand for like 6 months and she wants to know if I'd support her. I told her flat out I know for a fact online relationships don't work.

Guess now she has no boyfriend she won't have an issue going to Thailand.