yeah we're hopeless
That's a defeatist outlook, the forums will continue keeping on keeping on even if it somehow mysteriously died the next day. Hypothetically if things went to stuff tomorrow, most people here have some form of connection to the people they like, and things are intertwined enough that there's more than one connected community.
The forums might have slowed down, but it's not like everyone disappeared from existence or died, it's just slower. I agree that the toxic mentality of feeling like arguing is really exhausting and smothering, but at the end of the day people like you and me aren't the ones who have to change and preaching at everyone else is just wasted breath.