Author Topic: [Blogland] Relationship status: Official [The end?]  (Read 17967 times)

emotions and relationships aren't as cut and dry as you might expect. one motive as to why not to cut it off is fear that doing so will have repercussions in his attitude towards her or result in him attempting to confront XR-7 or coworkers. another might be is that she doesn't want him as a relationship partner but doesn't want to cut ties with him entirely, thus she wants to smooth things over before breaking it off.

a relationship doesn't end when the breakup happens. a relationship ends when both parties move on.
This, breaking up is always a huge risk when it comes to wanting to be friends, possible hate and or fights, stuff like that

emotions and relationships aren't as cut and dry as you might expect. one motive as to why not to cut it off is fear that doing so will have repercussions in his attitude towards her or result in him attempting to confront XR-7 or coworkers. another might be is that she doesn't want him as a relationship partner but doesn't want to cut ties with him entirely, thus she wants to smooth things over before breaking it off.

a relationship doesn't end when the breakup happens. a relationship ends when both parties move on.

why would she want to smooth things over? xr-7 said he (the boyfriend) hides his phone from her and has suggestive pictures of other women on it. oh yeah and he's cheated on her. does that really warrant you to be buddy buddy with the guy? i think she's using him for his place or something.

and has suggestive pictures of other women on it.
I have suggestive pictures of other people on my phone and on my computers. I would probably not be willing to date someone who had a problem with that, to be honest

why would she want to smooth things over? xr-7 said he (the boyfriend) hides his phone from her and has suggestive pictures of other women on it. oh yeah and he's cheated on her. does that really warrant you to be buddy buddy with the guy? i think she's using him for his place or something.
yeah that would definitely be a big factor - she doesnt have a place to go to if he kicks her out, which is very likely the case. she also probably would need time to move her stuff out - he may be an starfish and not let her get her stuff or some other richard move.

im not trying to imply she really wants to stay friends with him. we don't know either XR-7 or her well enough to make that call, but its a possibility. it probably is unlikely the case given what XR-7 has said about the two.

the point is there's more to breaking up than wanting to break up. hell, even if there wasn't ever a relationship, it can still be just as stressful to ""break up"" - my gf has had a ton of trouble with a guy who's just extremely into her despite her saying no multiple times (he's suicidal, she likes him as a friend but nothing else, he's also aware she doesn't like him but still really wishes for a relationship), and some of her friends pressure her about him as well, or blame her for him being interested in her/not heading it off earlier (which is absolutely bullstuff - if he's acting like a richard its on him, not on her)

Ima just take a quick second to say that damn XR-7 this is some good ass story telling, like I found myself on the edge of my seat at the part where he showed up in front of you and you guys just sat there quiet. The suspense had me going crazy.

Other that that I truly hope everything works out for you and her, I don't condone the cheating on her bf thing, I feel that you guys shoulda waited till she was completely broken up with him. But to each there own, and she seems happy and for me it's all about making my girl happy so I can kinda see why you guys do what you do. Anyways God speed bro I'll keep you guys in my prayers

Yeah XR you are good at story telling lmao

So since the last update, the two of us have basically been in a full-blown relationship, we just aren't officially calling ourselves "boyfriend and girlfriend". Nothing is out of bounds, we use pet names for each other, tell each other goodnight and good morning every day, have upgraded to kisses for every greeting/departure, and at this point I can't even remember the last time a day passed where I didn't spend less than an hour with her.

My coworkers are rather uncomfortably involved

A good few of them know in explicit detail about some of the things we've done and will occasionally raz us about them. It was partially my fault for this since I managed to leave a hicky on her neck on Thursday and people at work saw it, so she spilled some of the beans to them. I mean, whatever. It doesn't bother me all that much, but it is admittedly a little strange.

The beginning of an intense weekend (Friday, Oct 21)

After I got off work at Walgreens, she was waiting next to my car in the parking lot as she has been over the past couple weeks. I had some errands to run, mainly at Walmart, so she came with me. I pushed her around the store in the shopping cart basket and bought her muffins and a banana along with shopping for myself. We also got crackers and easy cheese so we sat in my car and built little houses with that practically eating ourselves sick.

The next day, while we were hanging out, she opens her snapchat and finds that her "boyfriend" screenshot a picture of our cheese and crackers adventure, which was cheese art that I made reading "Austin <3 [her name]". Now she hasn't seen the dude in a couple weeks at this point because he's been off partying and getting drunk and doing "other stuff" down in Florida, although she still stays with his mom. All I'm thinking about the screenshot is little smug feelings of "haha" but she's confused about it and texts him asking about it.

Nuclear meltdown (Sun, Oct 23)

Last night didn't turn out too well.

She gets into a spat with her "boyfriend" over Facebook messenger and things fall to hell real fast. Within a few texts (she kept me updated in almost live time with screenshots of their conversation), my name was popping up on both sides of the argument and things were escalating to the point where she was sobbing and livid with every molecule in his body.

And I see a little "1" appear for my Messenger notifications.

Her "boyfriend" is attempting to contact me straightforwardly asking if there's anything going on between us. I freaked out at first and told her what he was doing, which only enraged her even farther and their fight escalated into a full-blown war. I wasn't going to accept his communication request and pressed forward just ignoring it, although I considered saying something. However, as the fight went on, his messages became downright threatening, abusive, and then he simply began dismissing her thoughts as unimportant.

My adrenaline hit skyhigh levels at that point and I went into keyboard online warrior mode. In the first time over the course of this saga, I accepted his communication request and went into one-on-one contact with him. And it was not pretty. No, this wasn't friendly, indifferent XR. This was angry, sarcastic XR. I completely chewed tf out of him to the point where he wasn't even able to formulate logical responses, instead he began blaming his family and friends for him being the way he is and that he can't help it before saying "I don't even care anymore". I left another paragraph of heavily sarcasm inlaid judgement aimed at his behavior towards her and capped with a "tally ho" and he stopped responding altogether. Within minutes, he was apologizing profusely to her. I told her not to respond, and she took my advice. I have yet to know what happened in the time since then, other than she got so upset that she drank half a bottle of vodka and cried herself to sleep, so I brought her a muffin at work this morning.

The breakup is so close. So close.

Christ that BF sounds toxic lol

Glad to know that you've stuck up for her and helped her during this whole fiasco, she probably wouldn't have been able to handle it by herself, which may be why anything close to a breakup hasn't been attempted yet until you came around and helped her majorly

XR you're an awesome dude


Christ that BF sounds toxic lol

Glad to know that you've stuck up for her and helped her during this whole fiasco, she probably wouldn't have been able to handle it by herself, which may be why anything close to a breakup hasn't been attempted yet until you came around and helped her majorly

XR you're an awesome dude

Looking back, I can't even really see how I managed to come up with all the stuff I said to him.

Quote from: XR to that cigarette
I mean she is quite literally my best friend in the world right now. We like taking turns choosing adventures and embarking on treks with open minds. We like loving around with our friends at work and gossiping about dumb people in the drive thru. We make jokes and laugh for minutes straight. We have each other's backs and gladly shun those who cause issues for the other person. Take what you will from that but all I can say right now is that I've basically had a front row seat to all of the fights and little spats that you two get into, and I have acted as a mentor for her through many of them or at least as just an ear who will quietly listen to a heat-of-the-moment rant. I've helped her deal with many of those over the past several months because I'm her best friend and will happily stay by her side and that won't change. All I can say to you right now is that she is beside herself and extremely upset right now and you aren't conducting yourself appropriately which is only making it worse. You may think that none of this is my business and probably underestimated just how much I actually know about what goes on between you two, but it became my business when someone crossed my best friend.

I mean there is some stuff that he doesn't need to know about, mainly for her safety, my well-being as a breathing, living human, and as a formality.

BOI U GONNA GET IT

Bruh I betcha I got more than you think I already have

I stay away from chicks now especially after my last ex, but good luck to you sir it's going to be nothing but problems and annoyance plus that girl sounds problematic. I'd F off if that was me.

I stay away from chicks now especially after my last ex, but good luck to you sir it's going to be nothing but problems and annoyance plus that girl sounds like a richard.
I stay away from chicks now especially after my last ex, but good luck to you sir it's going to be nothing but problems and annoyance plus that girl sounds problematic. I'd F off if that was me.

Nice ninja

I don't really know what my thoughts are after today. All I know is that things could go further in my favor or things could drastically go south and go south very very fast.

I worked with my friend all day today but because today was Saturday and every handicapped person living in my county decided that today was a good day to eat at Hardee's, I was in an extremely pissy mood and just wished that everyone in the drive thru could just get crucified while watching their children get killed while being set on fire find somewhere else to eat. Because the truck was late, I didn't have to stick around the unload boxes, and my friend was scheduled for another 45 minutes, so because I was pissed and bored and had stuff to do at Walgreens across the street related to my schedule, I told her I'd leave and come back for her in about an hour.

In the few yards that it took me to get across the street, I managed to get myself pulled over for the 9th time this year. After that, I talked to my homie and we vaped in my car while he was on break before my friend began texting me to meet her at Taco Bell. I drive across the street, park behind her car, and knock on the window and realize she has a passenger I'd never seen before. It was some unknown ratchet unemployed chainsmoker girl who needed a ride across the street, and she wanted me there just in case.

After that situation settled, she reiterated that she really wanted to carve jack-o-lanterns as she'd been saying for weeks, so being the Saturday before Halloween, I agreed. I was confused on where we were going to carve pumpkins though, since my family isn't okay with me having new friends over when parents are out, and she's currently living with her boyfriend's mom. Nevertheless, she just casually says that we can carve pumpkins at her place. I think she noticed me spacing out at that point and followed up saying, "Don't worry. He's not there." After being away in Florida for weeks, he apparently returned back home, and then left right away again to go somewhere 4 hours away.

So I'm like, sure, I'm down.

Once we got there, only her boyfriend's brother was home. During my long 8 hour stay, we carved pumpkins, moved everything out of the refrigerator into the garage, roasted pumpkin seeds, listened to music, and then decided to watch Gremlins in the living room. I helped her figure out how to use her boyfriend's PS4 and then we settled down under a fuzzy blanket together on the couch eating pumpkin seeds and drinking hot chocolate. Within about 20 minutes, I hear the garage door open and the loud annoying mom comes in and keeps interrupting us. Pretty sure she's suspicious af but she doesn't know how to be sneaky. I just act sociable and friendly so she doesn't have a reason to not like me.

And then things get bad.

I hear a loud engine coming up the driveway and a flash of red dart past the front window. I know what it is. It's her boyfriend's red Hummer. The mom's voice rings out, "Hey it seems [his name] is home! Were you expecting him?" My friend whispers in my ear that if he has any sort of problem with us, then he can just f off. I just remain buckled to the couch cushion while my mind raced. I imagine his thoughts when he pulled into the driveway and his headlights illuminate my "AUS0ME" license plates on my cop car that he knows all too well as belonging to the guy who spends hours upon days upon weeks with her.

My thoughts are cut short when the front door opens and he walks in on me and her underneath the same blanket sharing the same couch cushion. I felt the whole room go tense. My friend barely acknowledged him at all at first besides, "Hey". I pretend to be into the movie and he walks across the room to her side of the couch, kisses her on top of the head, and presents her with peppered jerky and a cheap necklace. I try to act normal and after a few random conversations, I actually end up talking to him a little about funny stuff I found on Facebook and talking about the World Series and other random stuff. My friend then offers if he wants to watch the movie with us, and he says that he probably will.

I keep scooting about an inch every five minutes farther from my friend although we continue sharing the blanket. Her boyfriend walks out to change clothes and comes back later to watch the movie. I don't move. Our setup ended up being her on the far left, me sharing the blanket and cushion with her, while he sat on my right side, not with her. His dog joined our party once in a while and sat between me and him, which was comforting, but nevertheless, I had the top seat in the house -- his self-proclaimed rightful seat. He didn't say anything though. We continued to laugh at stupid effects and plot points about the movie.

During this time, she's starting to get a little curious with me underneath the blanket, while he's sitting right next to me. It got to the point that I'd smack her underneath the blanket because I was worried I'd react in a jumpy fashion causing suspicion and problems. After awhile of this, he finally gets up and decides to go to bed. I'm not sure if I managed to lull him into a sense of security as I played chill throughout the evening, or if he got too uncomfortable and went to bed.

I won't go into everything that happened while he slept literally right underneath us in the basement, but at this point I can tell how she really feels about him. There's quite obviously very little relationship at all.

I won't go into everything that happened while he slept literally right underneath us in the basement
hot

So you want a cheater. Brilliant.