If you're on the memberlist in the OP, dargereldren should have sent you a link to the [Qi] Discord; please accept it so we have a place to chat privately.
Due to some technical difficulties, the [Qi] forums have been down for some time now. I plan on getting them relaunched later tonight so that I can rearrange how [Qi] members work. I'm not sure on the details yet, but I'd like to think that anyone who joins the forum is a member to be put on [Qi] server whitelists, but anyone who submits an application the the "inner-circle" group, Hell's Kitchen, can build on [Qi] servers and use the clantags. This way [Qi] can still be inclusive, but people can't abuse its openness to fuel their vice.
Also, because of certain blacklists, I will now allow anyone to join [Qi]/Hell's Kitchen anonymously. Shoot me your application in a PM if you want to be an anonymous member.