If you knew me irl, it'd be obvious that I'm sociable.
And yet you make the claim that you could harm other forumers and assume they'd act the same way they act online?
But online people tend to cultivate fake personas for who they are, instead of being their authentic selves.
Isn't that a tad strange?
In fact, my "failure" to manage the situation is entirely based on the fact that you guys have your own reputation structures on here, that are not at all applicable to who a person is irl. I haven't bothered to tame my statements to 'protect feelings' or be 'tactful', I agree.
You failed to manage the situation because you handled it by not having tame statements. I hope you at the very least realize your fault in this mess.
I like to mention one's online presence reflects on the person they are in real life too, even in spite of these "fake personas".
What kind of person would be as disingenuous online, and then supposedly be "their authentic selves"? A liar is a liar.